During a divorce, you may find it difficult to speak with your spouse, particularly regarding high-conflict divorce.
Divorce is a challenging and emotional process requiring open and effective communication between spouses. To learn how to communicate constructively can minimize conflict and facilitate a smoother transition.
Establish channels of communication
Establishing clear channels of communication is essential for navigating the complexities of divorce. Determine the most effective methods of communication, whether for face-to-face conversations, phone calls, emails or text messages. If you have more difficulty speaking face-to-face or if you fear fighting with your ex-spouse, consider talking over text and email. Email and text allow you to think clearly about what you want to say and to keep track of messages.
Focus on direct communication
Clear and direct communication helps you to address issues during a divorce. Stay honest and transparent in your communication and express your thoughts, feelings and concerns as openly as possible. When you have direct and open communication, you may have fewer misunderstandings. While you learn to communicate directly, you also need to listen to your partner.
Active listening requires you to listen fully with no judgment. When you offer active listening, your partner has a higher likelihood of hearing out your concerns during the process.
Throughout the divorce, you must learn to keep your emotions in check. While normal to have a lot of high emotions because of the split, you cannot afford to react impulsively or to react to heated arguments. When you escalate conflict, it hinders communication. Instead, always try to maintain composure or to cool off before talking.
